What is the nuance of a family? It depends on the family I suppose. When things go wrong or bad things happen families can do one of two things. They can fall apart and lose themselves, or they can rally together and improve the situation.
I recently had a few scares within my family. One of those scares was a cancer scare with my dad. He is my stepdad, and we call him Pops. Pops has battled skin cancer off and on for years. It has never been melanoma but has always been basal cell carcinoma. We had a nurse once tell us that if someone was going to have skin cancer, basal cell carcinoma is the one to have since it doesn’t grow and spread quickly.
Sure, thanks I thought. However, now Pops has to have surgery to remove deep cancer on his nose and then he’ll need plastic surgery to reconstruct the huge pit left from the removal of cancer.
Pops was nervous and just wanted the entire situation done and over with already.
We went through the consultations with both the cancer specialist/surgeon and the plastic surgeon. After discussing the exact procedures needed both surgery dates were scheduled. Now, this might not seem like such a big deal to some of you, but for my pops and the rest of us, it was all new and nerve-racking. The hospital that each surgery would be performed is nearly two hours away. It would require us to stay four days in a hotel which is not cheap. My brother would come along as would I to help my parents. So, four of us would be there to support each other. We would make the best of the situation.
As many of you can surmise, four adults with entirely different personalities might get on each other’s nerves on occasion. Well, yes that could happen, and it did at times. With that said, isn’t that the nature of families? Through it all, we laughed, became irritated, and even frustrated, but remained steadfast in our loyalty and dedication to each other as a family unit.
It is times like this that families show the real sense of what it means to be a family.
You might be wondering how the surgeries turned out. They went well and at the moment pops is beginning the healing process. We didn’t lose our sense of humor through it all, though. In fact, we had thought of buying a set of nose glasses for all of us and wearing them in honor of my pops who now has a considerable crisscross bandage on his nose.